Urban Insider Magazine

First and foremost thank you!!!! Now I’m not sure if you are familiar with Comospolitan magazine, well this setup for V-day is that from a guy’s perspective I love that you decided to bring up dating and relationships because as guys, we never really have the forum to really express that. With that being said what is your ideal first date and why….     Yeah, men can never express! And we’re expected not to have feelings so for most of my life, I didn’t, but I’ve been tapped in lately. For a first date I think it should be something very casual because the stakes shouldn’t be high. My ideal first date is something in nature like a scenic walk or a picnic. The reason is because nobody should be spending money on someone you don’t know and also it shouldn’t be somewhere loud because I think the conversation is the most important thing.  Is it ok to ask what your dating situation is like gender wise, and how do you really know if you’re attracted to that person or is it just ...

In a place I have never felt was home, I found happiness, I found beauty, and I found joy in the form of him. That was until someone decided I was much too happy, and took my whole little world right from under me. I hate when you tell someone your story and they trivialize into whatever the fuck they think compares to it because that shit for me goes into one ear and out the other. My life hasn't been great, but it was never god awful for me either it was just some things I guess I would've changed before they got to the point of no return. Before I met him I was focused, yes I wanted to be with someone of my choice, hell I wanted it for years, but I kept being sent niggas who were just for the moment, and you could tell because it was some attachment to them, but I never saw myself with any of them long-term. I guess I'm going to have to go all the way back to the beginning, before him I have only had the feeling I'm having now once, and that was when I was 18 ...

I have been going through it this week, and today I was physically in pain behind my break-up, which brings me to my next topic "Communication". In this age we are not limited to rotary phones or landlines as a means of communication, we have a myriad of avenues to connect with each other whether it be social media, that also offers several platforms, or those other things which connect us to all of these wonderful ways of communicating called "Cellphones". Most of us are probably holding one in our hand right now, I know my ex is always attached to his, so the last time we "communicated", he accused me of making some sort of fake profile of him, I shrugged it off because he often makes up reasons to start an argument with me, because it is a very childish thing to do, not only is the behavior childish it also insulting to just accuse a person of something like I'm some flaming queen in these streets. To add insult to injury he also provide...

My pain, my education, and my personal experience has prompted me into writing about my latest relationship, not so much as to air a grievance but more so as a way to heal. I am not the type to get into a relationship with just anyone, nor am I the type to just get into a relationship just for the sake of company, I loved this man, in my eyes he is everything that I have ever wanted. I opened myself up to him completely, all of my raw emotions, all of my shortcomings, all of my flaws he knows them well, and he helped recover from those old wounds I had, he made me so happy and full of life again that I wanted to be his everything forever. His happiness became my happiness, and I put him first while I took a bench seat, I did everything that he asked me to do, and still with all that has been done for him by me he left. In spite of my degree I took jobs I hated to give him everything he wanted, and needed, with him around I didn't need all the things I once needed anymor...

I love discussing things from a personal narrative, I think it gives what I'm writing about more feeling, I do not reveal the names of anyone I'm romantically linked with just to clear that up. Now we all learn about gender roles and gender schema as it relates to society in sociology, but I want to discuss how those crossover in modern relationships. When our parents and grandparents were growing up you had the typical gender roles, the husbands went to work while the wives stayed home and were like June Clever, at least that's how my maternal grandmother was, now as society has changed you have a lot of role reversal, and you even have non traditional gender roles in non traditional relationships, we will get there later. What I want to talk about now is courtship, usually when a person expresses interest in you and you express it back, you all begin to date and the rest is history, now it seems as though guys want to be chased,and play the role traditionally ...