I love discussing things from a personal narrative, I think it gives what I'm writing about more feeling, I do not reveal the names of anyone I'm romantically linked with just to clear that up. Now we all learn about gender roles and gender schema as it relates to society in sociology, but I want to discuss how those crossover in modern relationships. When our parents and grandparents were growing up you had the typical gender roles, the husbands went to work while the wives stayed home and were like June Clever, at least that's how my maternal grandmother was, now as society has changed you have a lot of role reversal, and you even have non traditional gender roles in non traditional relationships, we will get there later. What I want to talk about now is courtship, usually when a person expresses interest in you and you express it back, you all begin to date and the rest is history, now it seems as though guys want to be chased,and play the role traditionally held for the female which is baffling for me as a man who dates dominate men, and as a guy observing in society.
Personally I don't mind being the provider in my relationship, because of how I was raised I don't like accepting things from people outside of my family anyway, however if I am said provider in the relationship why am I chasing you as well???? If my role in our relationship is submissive which again I have no problem with, but it would seem that one role is outworking the other and that just isn't fair, I shouldn't have to chase you in order to provide for you. I would think that off the strength of you providing for that person that they would chase you, however not in just my situation but I have noticed that other couples have the same problems. The female works, is a homemaker, takes care of the children and the guy, while he does whatever he wants and thinks that it's ok. There seems to be a lack of appreciation, and an influx of expectation, as well as a total disregard of that key component respect, you cannot respect your partner who breaks their neck, and will do without for you if you are playing games. That shit hurts especially coming from a person like me who loves love.
Honestly I think this has to be a generational thing, because I couldn't see the relationships that take place in today's society being well-welcomed in the 50's and 60's. In that aspect I'm only speaking about how these men are ok with being chased, and doing the bare minimum to keep their relationship in tact, I love spoiling a guy that Im in love with, whether it be washing his clothes, ironing his clothes, buying his clothes, helping him get ready for work, cooking all of that, but you have to be worth all of that being done. Reciprocity, nobody wants to feel they are not being appreciated by you, do small things like text first, hell pick up the phone and call your fingers work, stop acting like you are owed the things being done for you, plan a spontaneous date it doesn't have to be expensive at least not for me, because at the end of the day you are the one I have chosen,and I just want to know I'm wanted just as much as I want you. For the ladies I think it goes a lot deeper because they aren't men playing a female gender role, often times they are forced to split gender roles depending on the guy they are dating, and responsibilities that are placed upon them, which can't be an easy task. So if you are one of these guys, nobody is bashing you, but its 2017 step your relationship game up a little and take some of the responsibility of being a man.
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