Communication: In Dating & Relationships

I have been going through it this week, and today I was physically in pain behind my break-up, which brings me to my next topic "Communication". In this age we are not limited to rotary phones or landlines as a means of communication, we have a myriad of avenues to connect with each other whether it be social media, that also offers several platforms, or those other things which connect us to all of these wonderful ways of communicating called "Cellphones". Most of us are probably holding one in our hand right now, I know my ex is always attached to his, so the last time we "communicated", he accused me of making some sort of fake profile of him, I shrugged it off because he often makes up reasons to start an argument with me, because it is a very childish thing to do, not only is the behavior childish it also insulting to just accuse a person of something like I'm some flaming queen in these streets. To add insult to injury he also provided me with no detailed information about what he was accusing me of, nor did he even give me a chance to defend myself against his allegations.

We are adults we both have working brains, working mouths, working social media platforms, there is no reason why this can't be resolved through simple communication. I feel used at this point because I have done more than my share of sacrificing for him, and I feel like he used this situation as a way to get rid of me, I'm no genius but if you want to go "hoe around", which is what he accused me of then you should be man enough to say that, and I can simply wash my hands of you completely, mind you this is the same man who let me miss the opportunity to start my career using my degree earlier last year, and let me stay here to work in a basic job to continue helping him out. If he wanted to get rid of me he had the chance at that point, and things wouldn't be where they are now. I have been racking my brain trying to find any traces of a fake profile of him to prove my innocence, but like I said I don't think there ever was one to begin with. I can't even look at another man, let alone have a conversation with one or he gets victimized, I feel like that is some form of guilt on his part, even though I thought this was something that would last forever, I'm not above him finding his happy ending I will not stand in the way. What I do have a problem with is him trying to be underhanded and sneaky about it, if you want something else you have every right to voice that to your partner, you don't however have a right to continue getting rescued by this partner and then causing an argument to go do your thing"allegedly". You don't have a right to have your partner alter their life for your own selfish benefit and then up and leave out of nowhere, we are men this shit is supposed to be easy, there isn't a language barrier, he isn't a mute or an invalent. What would have happened had we acquired a home together, would I just been expected to be ok coming home one day all my shit is gone, he is gone, the accounts are empty, but he is refusing to communicate because of whatever reason he made up in his head.

That shit is illegal and I would have as much problem if not more than I have now, I'm not asking this dude for blood, all I want to know is how to proceed because when he ran his ass off for 6 months with no explanation, he expected complete loyalty from me and there wasn't even an issue during that time. I out of hurt and frustration lied and said I slept with someone else during our non-sensual time apart, and he acted as though I broke a ten commandment, hell I didn't know if he was coming back or not so if I had slept with another guy or several I was well within my right because I was not spoken for. If you want me to know what you want from me in a relationship, then you damn well better "communicate" that shit to me, when he wants something he knows how to use his mouth then. Had I honestly done something wrong I wouldn't even be tripping like this, but I have given my all because he said he could do that if we were going to deal with each other, and I just want the simplest form of I'm not fucking with you anymore or thank-you for being there for me but I can do better on my own. I think I am owed that much gratitude because I was a stranger to him, that trusted and accepted him into my life in good faith not for this bullshit.