Let's face these days almost everybody has them, if they aren't present they are stashed away somewhere and who ever you are dating is waiting for the "right time" to spring them on you! Now this was slightly inspired by the movie Cyrus, a few excerpts from my life, and others who shall remain nameless. Well dating a person with a child or children can go a couple of ways lets explore the first scenario.
Scenario 1 (The Problem Child)
If you are dating a parent whose child or children are very present in their life you may have a serious problem on your hands. If that child or children aren't fond of their parent dating they can and will make your life a living hell. Reason being is that child/children has been that parents primary focus until you came along, and then you start to take some of spotlight. Well most children will do whatever it takes to make sure you are out of the picture, from random flat tires, tampering with your food or drinks, making certain possessions of your disappear without explanation. My favorite manipulation or guilt all the way to physical altercations depending on their age, if you are willing to stick around after any of those situations then you have a very high tolerance rate.
Scenario 2 (The Other Parent)
If the other parent is still somewhat attached to whom you are currently dating, the may and will pose serious drama in your relationship. It may stem from keeping you from seeing your child, to harassing the new person in your life as well as you, or making it seem like the reason they need to keep in contact with you so much is because you have a child together. Not saying this will consistently be the case with all people, but it's something you should be aware of if dating someone who has children.
Scenario 3 (No evidence of a child exist until much later)
You've been dating for quite sometime now and you have abosuletly no idea that the one you're has a child/children. This person is quite clever they are almost in a sense setting you up for the kill, they conveniently arrange for the child to be gone whenever you come over, or maybe you have never been over at all. In the case that you've never been invited over and you two have been involved for awhile that should arouse some cause for suspicion. However this person is in some way deceiving especially if you've asked, but if you are already in too deep once you find out what can you do?
Scenario 4 ( The Person who tries to take priority over the child)
Now whoever does this is an absolute asshole, and some women even men will try to make themselves seem more important than your child. If you allow them you have a problem, and if you are the one doing this shame shame on you. You should never try to make a person make that choice, and those who are parents should always put your child first. If the person you are dating can't understand that well obviously that isn't the person you want in your life!
Tough decisions to make huh now I was actually the child in one of these scenarios, and in the other person one of the others. I will say that the child was never an issue since it was an infant however that other parent was a nightmare. However these are scenarios which you MUST take into consideration, and hey you may luck up and never experience any of these. Happy Dating!
Posted by Your Royal Highness ALI
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